Hi, this is Patrick Rodriguez. And you’re listening to the Patrick Rodriguez Show.
This is the place to learn how to release your past, so that you can experience the fulfillment of your life by living in the present moment.
Today we’ll be listening to an actual client session. This session was to help a woman that initially told me that she was struggling with health issues due to job and family stress. But as we began to talk I realized that stress wasn’t really the problem in her life.
The real problem was the energy of worry that then caused her to feel stress. And most medical practitioners are quick to tell us that high levels of stress can speed up, or even complicate, many health challenges in our lives. This was the situation that she found herself in when we got started.
I want to point out at the start here that I am not a licensed therapist or medical practitioner. And I don’t try to treat or diagnose any mental health condition. Rather, I’m an energy healer. I address the underlying energy of unwanted behaviors and situations that people find themselves in, in order to release that energy.
I’ve found that releasing energy can have a profound effect on the person’s life outlook and their ability to experience the present moment in their life, without their past holding them in place.
Please note that the following recording is from an actual client session and is being replayed here with permission. This recording deals with some emotionally intense themes. This may trigger some listeners. I ask you to please use discretion and self-care while listening. And I invite you to reach out for help in the event that you do find yourself emotionally triggered.
Now let’s listen in to see how healing the underlying emotional energy can have a very pragmatic effect on stress and worry.
Patrick: I’m going to invite you to replace the word stress with worry.
Client: Worry, okay. So, yeah, worry would fit in there.
Patrick: So it is almost like you hired yourself for this position and then gave yourself a promotion to Director of Worry for other people’s problems. Whether they are real or imagined.
Client: Yeah, yeah.
Patrick: So if someone has a real problem or imagined problem, you still have to worry about it because that is your job. You’re the director.
Client: Yeah. Yeah.
Patrick: It is your job to worry. That is your job. You just want to let that be there for a sec. Because if you got something, you might as well own it.
Client: Yeah.
Patrick: So your statement earlier is, the big stressor in my life is health. And I would respectfully suggest to you that the big stressor in your life is the worry and your health is suffering because of it.
Client: Okay. That is a good way to look at it.
Patrick: Does it feel accurate? Check in with your own feelings.
Client: Yes, I would say that is accurate.
Patrick: A lot of hesitancy, a lot of reluctance to admit that. But I am glad you did.
So we have our external life and we have our internal life. Our external life is, you know, what is my husband doing? What are my kids doing? What is going on at work? That is the external life.
The internal life is how you perceive everything that is going around outside of you. That’s the internal life. And then, even within the internal life, we have the conscious thinking, right? This is what I think.
Client: I do a lot of internal, I do a lot of thinking, yeah.
Patrick: But then, there’s the feelings. And our feelings very often are not conscious. Very often we are not consciously aware of what we are feeling.
Does that make sense?
Client: Yep.
Patrick: And sometimes it just hurts. It hurts to feel our feelings.
Sometimes our childhood didn’t go the way that we would have liked it to have gone. And so we cover it up. We stay busy. And a lot of times, even though it was decades ago, we keep busy today so that we don’t have to feel the feelings of what happened at 10 years old, what happened at 11 years old, what happened at 12 years old.
And so we need to stay busy today. Otherwise, those feelings creep up. And we don’t want to feel those. And that’s okay. That’s okay. Yeah, just let it come up. Just let it come up.
I can feel your heart rate elevating. And that’s okay. That’s good. Your breathing is a little fast, and that’s good. That’s good.
So that’s telling me that we’re hitting some tender spots. That’s a good thing. We just need to know where to start digging. That’s all.
So what I’m guessing, and this is just a guess at this moment. Is that this whole thing about worry serves a purpose. This whole thing about worry serves a purpose in your life.
If I worry about everything that’s not me, I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me. If I worry about everything that’s not me, I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
How does that sound?
Client: How does that feel? Is that what you’re asking?
Patrick: Correct.
Client: I don’t know, accurate, I guess.
Patrick: Just let it be there. Okay, I’m going to repeat it again.
If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me. If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Let’s say that together, please.
If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Client: If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Patrick: One more time please. If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Client: If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Patrick: Good, good, good, good. Feeling a lot of fear coming from your center chest. Does that match?
More specifically, I’m feeling like your breathing is more labored. Like it’s a little more effort to breathe. And it’s stopping right about at your center chest. It feels like it’s harder to take a full breath right now. Try it again.
Client: Yeah, I agree.
Patrick: I’m going to ask you to say this again, we’ll do it together, and then I want you to notice your breathing.
If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Client: If I worry about all the things that are not me, then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Patrick: Feel your breathing, notice your breathing. I’m feeling like it’s hard to take a deeper breath.
Client: Yeah, I agree.
Patrick: Just let it be there. Just let it be there. So this is the benefit of worry. This is the benefit of worry.
So you’re saying, well, how do we change this? Because worry seems to be having an effect on your health.
And you’re saying, well, why not worry so that way my health improves. And my observation is, well, worry seems to be playing a very vital role in your life. For you, you’ve set it up.
If I worry, all the pain goes away. All the pain in my past goes away. All the pain in my childhood goes away. All the feelings of insignificance goes away. All the feelings of I’m not important, and I don’t matter, go away.
Sounds kind of rough, but.
Client: Yeah, it does.
Patrick: Kind of feeling, this is what you tell yourself. Does that match?
Client: Yeah, I guess so. Unconsciously, I guess.
Patrick: And what we want to do here is make the unconscious conscious. The benefit of worry is all this hurt goes away.
When I worry about everything and everyone, I don’t have to focus on me and my own hurt.
You’re doing good. Now you’re digging. This is what we do. We go in, we stir it up so that we can let it go.
If we don’t stir it up we don’t know what’s causing the issue. Does that make sense?
Client: Yep, it does.
Patrick: One more time out loud, please. If I worry about all the things that are not me.
Client: If I worry about all the things that are not me.
Patrick: Then I don’t have to feel the feeling.
Client: Then I don’t have to feel the feelings that are me.
Patrick: That’s right. All the hurt, all the past hurts, all the hurt from childhood, all the feelings where I feel that I am not important, that I am insignificant, that I don’t matter.
Now let’s be clear. I don’t think that you don’t matter. I don’t believe that for one second. I don’t believe for one second that you are not important. I don’t believe that for one second.
What I do believe is that you believe you don’t matter. Does that make sense?
Client: It does, yes.
Patrick: And we start with, this is our starting point, we start with acknowledging what’s there. If we acknowledge it, we can change it. If we pretend it’s not there. Man, it’s like trying to build a house on sand.
Okay, here we go. I don’t matter.
Client: I don’t matter. So do you want me to say it again?
Patrick: Very good, very good. Yes, I don’t matter.
Client: I don’t matter.
Patrick: Really get in touch with that seven, eight-year-old little girl. Get in touch with that seven, eight-year-old little girl, because she’s the one that really started this.
And it wasn’t her fault, you know? She was conditioned to believe this,
over and over.
The feeling I get is that you were told over and over, not in words, but in actions. And the interpretation by the child, and understand that child doesn’t have any life experience, right?
The child cannot think its way through a problem. A child only has feelings. That’s it. That’s how they interpret their entire world.
And I’ll ask you to evaluate with your feelings because your feelings are what’s really important. Feelings are the easiest doorway to our unconscious mind.
I don’t matter. One more time. Say it out loud, please.
Client: I don’t matter.
Patrick: To the best of your ability, I want you to imagine you can reach out to that seven, eight year old little girl. And we want to reach her feelings, not the you of today, but that seven, eight year old little you. We want to reach her feelings. I don’t matter.
Client: I don’t matter.
Patrick: Good, good, good, good, good.
Now I’m going to bring your attention to something really interesting. I’m going to ask you to do the same thing again. Reaching out to that seven, eight year little girl, you did it perfectly. Say it again. I don’t matter.
And then I want you to become aware of your breathing. One more time. Reach out to that seven, eight year little girl just like you did. Say it out loud.
Client: I don’t matter.
Patrick: Now notice your breathing. I’m imagining you’re taking full deep breaths. Very relaxed.
Say it again.
Client: I don’t matter.
Patrick: I’m feeling full breath. Is that not correct?
Client: No, yeah, I would say it’s better.
Patrick: Yeah. You say that as if it’s just a small improvement. I’m feeling a significant improvement.
So let me ask you, when you say the phrase and you get in touch with the inner child, does it feel like, okay, it’s a small improvement or does it feel like a significant improvement? In your breathing.
Client: Let’s say it’s significant.
Patrick: Good, good, good. Let’s just make sure that we’re on the right track. Because if we’re not on the right track, then we just change our approach. No big deal.
Now what we want to do is acknowledge to this little girl, to young Lynn, that we know she felt like she didn’t matter growing up. We know she felt like she didn’t matter growing up.
That’s a little tough. That one’s a little tough. It’s a little hard to hear. It’s almost like I’m feeling shame. She feels shame for feeling like she didn’t matter.
Now, we don’t want to make anything real. So we don’t want to put in memories that weren’t there. All we’re doing is going after the energy.
If we’re able to free up the energy, if we’re able to let go of hurt, we let go of the worry in the present day.
Let go of worry. In your case, I would imagine health starts to improve. So it doesn’t have to be precise.
So let’s give a little Lynn permission to feel ashamed. To feel like she doesn’t matter.
Let’s give a little Lynn permission to feel ashamed. To feel like she doesn’t matter. Kind of a double whammy on the poor kid.
Client: Yeah, yeah, I’d say.
Patrick: Good, good, good.
All right, we’re going to go for the next one. First one was I don’t matter. The next one is, I am not important to anyone. Can you say that out loud, please?
Client: I am not important to anyone.
Patrick: Let’s give you permission to have judgment. In other words, that’s so wrong. That’s so bad. I don’t want to feel this way.
Let’s give you permission to feel this is wrong. This is bad. I don’t want to feel this way. Even if it is true, I don’t want to feel this way.
Client: Yeah, you don’t want to feel that way.
Patrick: Good, good, good, good, good. I just want to give you permission to feel, This is bad. This is wrong. I don’t want to feel this way.
Give yourself permission to feel. I don’t want to feel this way. Even if it is true, I don’t want to know if it’s true. Let’s try it again. I am not important to anyone.
Client: I am not important to anyone.
Patrick: Let’s be really gentle with you. Because this is a very deep wound. You know, I want to treat you very gentle. I am not important to anyone.
And does that feel true? I am not important to anyone. I know your logical mind is saying, No, I’m important to my children. I’m important to my friends. I’m important to my husband. Of course I’m important. I’m important, I’m important, I’m important.
Client: Yep
Patrick: But what do your feelings say, and all we’re looking for is a yes or a no, and if it’s no then we move on.
If I’m correct, if what I’m feeling from you, if this is correct, there’s some hard stuff coming out.
Client: Yep.
Patrick: And I’m asking you to say these things so that we can get you on your side. When you hear yourself say these things and you’re like, oh my God, I am saying these things, it makes it much easier for you to have compassion for you.
Client: Yep.
Patrick: Let’s try it again. I know this is hard. I know it’s hard. I do not matter to anyone.
Client: I do not matter to anyone.
Patrick: I am not important to anyone.
Client: I am not important to anyone.
Patrick: This is rough. This is rough. I’m not going to pretend it’s not. Are you starting to feel it now?
Client: I am, yes.
Patrick: Good, good, good, good. And does it feel accurate? So in other words, are these what you really feel? Because I promise you, I do not want to… I do not want to like, you know, show this in your face and say, here’s what you believe. I really want to know, are we on the right track?
Client: No, I think so. Now the more you’re talking, things are making sense. Things are, I’m getting some memories, thoughts of how this could be true. You know, so.
Patrick: Good, good, good, good, good. Thank you for working with me. One more time. I am not important to anyone.
Client: I am not important to anyone.
Patrick: Very good, very good. We want you on your side. We want you on your side. We want you to be there for you. We want you to be there for you.
And when you’re able to be there for you 100%, you can then be there that much more for everyone else. One more time. I am not important to anyone.
Client: I am not important to anyone.
Patrick: Really take that in because that’s starting to shift. And I really want you to feel that. I am not important to anyone. Do you feel this shift starting to happen?
Client: Yes.
Patrick: Whereas just 20 minutes ago, that felt, okay, I don’t like it, but it feels true. Now it’s like, okay, let me just evaluate it. Let me go neutral here. Let me take away good and bad and just feel it. I imagine it’s starting to not completely feel true for you.
So I’m going to ask you to evaluate it. I am not important to anyone. Go ahead and say it out loud, please.
Client: I am not important to anyone.
Patrick: We’re starting to shift. Do you feel that?
Client: Mm-hmm.
Patrick: Excellent. This is where we want to be. This is where we want to be because you are important. Most important of all, you’re important to you.
I have a deep respect for the woman in this session, because even though she was in a strong fear of her past, she was still willing to look at her past in order to heal these old wounds.
And this is true for anyone that’s willing to go through their own healing journey. It’s rarely an easy process but I’ve found that it is deeply rewarding.
I don’t expect someone to heal their entire lifetime of past hurts and issues in one hour. But even in this short recording we can see how this woman is coming into the realization and the acceptance that the stress in her life was actually coming from her need to feel significant, stemming from her past.
In other words, it hurt to feel the feelings from her past. So it became easier to worry and feel stress, than it was to feel these old past emotional wounds that would come up in her life whenever she would feel insignificant.
Together, we use the feelings of compassion and empathy to help her to face not feeling important growing up. It’s this self-compassion that then allows her to release her past and to let go of worry and stress in her current life.
So now let me ask you.
Are you ready to begin releasing the energy of worry in your life?
Are you ready to let go of the stress that has been holding you back in your career, your finances or even your family life?
I believe that there are times when having another person help to guide you can really be a transformative experience. This is the reason that I encourage everyone to reach out for help when it comes to resolving issues that are difficult or seemingly impossible to work through on your own.
And if you’d like to work with me I’m here to help. I offer both one-on-one private sessions as well as group healing sessions.
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This has been Patrick Rodriguez reminding you to,
Release your past, so that you can experience the fulfillment of your life by living in the Present Moment.
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